Here's an email I received from Subvet, I thought it made good food for thought.
Found the following quote at a Catholic website, it references "God Is Near Us: The Eucharist, the Heart of Life" by Pope Benedict where he has this to say of the real meaning of the pro multis (the Latin phrase that means, literally, “for the many”) which is used in the consecration of wine during Mass. The thinking expressed goes beyond that into how Catholics should deal with non-Catholics:
We cannot start to set limits on God’s behalf; the very heart of the faith has been lost to anyone who supposes that it is only worthwhile, if it is, so to say, made worthwhile by the damnation of others. Such a way of thinking, which finds the punishment of other people necessary, springs from not having inwardly accepted the faith; from loving only oneself and not God the Creator, to whom his creatures belong. That way of thinking would be like the attitude of those people who could not bear the workers who came last being paid a denarius like the rest; like the attitude of people who feel properly rewarded only if others have received less. This would be the attitude of the son who stayed at home, who could not bear the reconciling kindness of his father. It would be a hardening of our hearts, in which it would become clear that we were only looking out for ourselves and not looking for God; in which it would be clear that we did not love our faith, but merely bore it like a burden. . . . It is a basic element of the biblical message that the Lord died for all—being jealous of salvation is not Christian.
So the next time someone says the Catholic Church condemns to Hell all non-Catholics, they might be advised to read this quote.